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LGBTQ pro question here!!

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2021-05-13 18:47:46 UTC
One of my sardar friend is struggling with his orientation and he is confused as to when should he come out of the closet. Any recommendations?
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2021-05-13 19:05:21 UTC
<p>He should announce his sexuality when he's comfortable doing so.</p><p><br></p><p>It seems he's comfortable enough to share that with you. It's a good start. Keep it to yourself and ask him to come out when he's comfortable, and to whom he's comfortable disclosing this to.</p>
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2021-05-14 01:38:05 UTC
<p>on a side note, we're checking why there wasn't any reward on this question.</p>
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2021-05-19 06:00:39 UTC
<p>Before I answer, I believe it is important for me to preface my perspective with this: </p><p><br></p><ul><li>I am not directly part of the LGBTQ community; however, I have had many friends and coworkers who are proudly part of the LGBTQ community</li><li>In my lifetime so far, I have been a part of four different men's "coming out" </li></ul><p><br></p><p>Each of these 4 males' "coming out" was different from the other. Like what a previous comment has mentioned, it should primarily be about the person feeling comfortable and ready. </p><p><br></p><p>The first time I witnessed a friend coming out, it was during high school. He was our Student Council President. He came out during one of his speeches to the entire high school and faculty. This was a very public way of coming out. </p><p><br></p><p>The second time I witnessed a friend coming out, it was during a men's retreat camping trip in college. There were about 20 of us, very close friends. My friend, "AL" decided to tell us during a campfire, during a time when we'd all share stories before going to bed. </p><p><br></p><p>The following year, and third time I witnessed a coming out during a very similar camping trip, another friend of the same group, "AM" came out during one of the nights we were sharing life stories around the campfire. </p><p><br></p><p>Lastly, the most recent was a good friend "NS" sort of coming out. We've always had a feeling in our friend group, but it didn't really matter to us. He always had a ton of girlfriends. However, he began to casually tell us about "making out" with a man... and that was pretty much it. "NS" never really had a formal coming out - to us as his friend group, at least. </p><p><br></p><p><br></p><p>The similarities between all of these (except for the first), is that it seems like each male felt like they were in a comfortable space, surrounded by people they could trust. </p><p><br></p><p>And honestly, the people who truly care for and care about the man coming out...regardless of their sexuality, they will not care either way. </p>